My name is Tu. Tu Morrow.
Choosing a name for your baby can be a daunting task. There is so many to choose from! So many options!!!
There was a total solar eclipse event in the USA last Monday, August 21st. So, naturally, one of the girls born on that date was named Eclipse. Her parents meant to name her Violet (pretty standard/ common name), but since she was born early, and on the special day of the solar eclipse, they changed their minds. “I believe that her birth should signify something, and what better way to signify her being born during the eclipse than name her Eclipse” – said the father. He continued by saying that the eclipse theme will be continuously present in the girl’s life. Is that not going a little bit overboard? Seems like the girl’s interests are already all figured out. Will she work at NASA someday? What is short for Eclipse? The mother says they will call her Clipsey. In what world is that cute, or practical??? I can see the girl’s peers calling her “Eek”, or “Clip”, neither one has a good ring to it. Poor girl… But at least, no one will ask her how to spell it. LOL. The mother’s name is Freedom. It makes me wonder what drove her parents to name her that way. Were they slaves? Did they want their daughter to know that she can do whatever she wants and they will not stop her? Because, once a kid is born, parents do not really have much freedom for quite some time. I remain confused.
I feel like there are about 7 types of people, based on the way they go about picking the names for their children.
1) Fathers who pass their own names onto their firstborn sons, adding “Jr” at the end.
[Such a selfish move, showing how highly you think of yourself, or such a cop out, since it is an easy way to end the naming craze.]
2) Couples who name the child after their family members (often their grandmother’s/ grandfather’s).
[I approve of this. You honor your loved ones.]
3) People who give their kid a popular name (based on popularity rankings).
[Yea, your pick might be hip and trendy today, but in a few years, when your kid goes to school, every other kid will be named Emma, or Liam (most popular baby names of 2017 so far).]
4) Those who name their babies after their favorite characters from movies or books.
[Calling your girl Bella (after the main character from the Twilight saga) does not alarm me, but naming your boy Flash (after the comic superhero) engages my alarm sensors.]
5) Parents who strive to pick the most unique name for their child.
[Bodhi Soleil – name of Ian Somerhalder (actor) and Nikki Reed’s (actress) daughter. As much as this can be awesome (creativity scores!!!), they might cause a lot of spelling issues. And the kid will grow tired of explaining the meaning behind the name pretty quickly.]
6) Folks who name their child after something (anything really) favorite/special (place, food, flower, etc.).
[Apple – Daughter of Gwyneth Paltrow (actress) and Chris Martin (singer)… REALLY? Or Michael Jackson’s (pop icon) son – Blanket… Seriously? Really?]
7) Those who open a dictionary/ baby names book on a random page and pick a random word/ name.
[Shannyn Sossamon (actress) said: “We wanted a word not a name(HUUUUUH???), so my boyfriend read through the dictionary three or four times. We were going to call him Science, but thought it might get shortened to Sci, as in Simon.” So they came up with Audio Science. Because naming your kid after a thing is a great idea. Not.]
My potential baby names have evolved throughout the years. Fear not, I am not going crazy picking a name for my own kid. This is to discuss other people’s picks. Hehehe… Trust me, I do not do it for selfish reasons. It is my belief that names can really harm young children. Have you ever said/ heard anyone say: “He’s such a *insert name*”, or: “Her name does not really fit her”? I know I have said it, and I have heard it. Our names ARE our identities, whether we like it or not. Some of us really like our names (lucky me), some are rather indifferent to it, but others cannot wait to be able to legally change their names. Actor Forest Whitaker wants his children’s names to be their destiny, so he named his son Ocean (to be expansive), and his daughter – True (to be honest). What if Ocean will never learn how to swim, and True will become a professional scammer? Unfortunately, there is no way for you to foresee your kid’s personality, no way for you to gauge who she/ he will be when they grow up. You just have to listen to your gut instinct and hope for the best.
It just boggles my mind. Personally, I enjoy “traditional” names, but also admire “creative” names. However, when the creativity is rather non-creative (ex.: Apple), I get irritated. That is because I envision what the kid will have to go through and how that might be challenging for them. It seems that celebrities are the ones perpetuating those crazy baby names, to show their uniqueness, in hopes that the child will follow in their footsteps and have a stage name already figured out. Then, other people, who look up to the rich and famous, want to be just as cool, so they come up with craziness of their own.
You might be thinking that you are so smart and unique giving your child a name after your favorite character from a book you are reading. You have not heard that name around. And then, all of a sudden, everyone seems to be naming their kid your kid’s name. THEY ARE READING/ WATCHING WHATEVER YOU ARE! *mind blown*
You know, when you’re standing in a doctor’s office, or at a chain store behind someone who is providing their name to check in, or sign up for rewards, and all of a sudden you hear a name that you have never heard of? And then they are asked to spell it, and you wonder how is it possible for all these ridiculous letters to come together and make a name? Or when their name sounds really simple, but it is spelled with the weirdest combination of letters? See: Austin spelled Austyn, Jackson spelled Jaxson, Emily can be spelled as: Emely, Emilee, Emilie, Emmalee. While those weird spellings are definitely unique, it might get tiring for the kids to constantly correct the spelling of their name. And they still sound “common”. The spelling becomes a nuisance.
Monograms and initials did not even enter my mind, when thinking about baby names. (Maybe because my initials never spelled out anything.) Apparently, that is also something should keep in mind. Naming your boy Zach Isaak, when his last name will be Travolta, is not a good omen for the nickname future of your kid (Z I T).
I found an fun quiz online, which assesses your baby name picking style. The results said that my naming style was “VINTAGE”, which totally agree on. “You like a name that’s traditional, but not overused; unique, but not unheard of.” – That describes it perfectly.
Do you like your name?
(Tu Morrow is another actor’s name. And while it is fun to say: “Tu Morrow. Tomorrow.”, I cannot get past the kids calling him “Three” or “Yesterday”.)
(Oh, and naming your kid North, when her last name will be West is plain silly.)