Living with your parents; The value of family.

First of all, close your eyes and imagine that this post was published Sunday night. I was lost between a few different topics, but not feeling “it” for either, so I decided to postpone it until today.

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I wonder where this world is headed on a regular basis. When it comes to humans, I am a sure pessimist. But I am also a hopeful person, so every day, I give society another chance.

A chance to choose the right path.

To choose progress.

To do more.

To be better.

To evolve.

Some of you might argue and say that we are becoming smarter and that we are heading in the right direction. To that, I would have to say that I disagree, but that I hope you lead by example and that you are indeed right. I wish you were not wrong, because I hate being right in that instance.

In some of my early posts (ex.: Those deadly avocados) I discussed how I felt about our knee-jerk reaction to sue anyone for anything. If you read that article, then you know that I find a lot of people ridiculous for suing anyone for anything. Maybe ultimately it is financially smart for some such people, but I, personally, could not bring myself to waste my own time and money, as well as other people’s resources on an unnecessary suit.

This post was inspired by Michael Rotondo, who recently sued his own parents for kicking him out of the house. His parents tried to help him find a place to stay, gave him money for temporary housing, and finally had to serve him with multiple eviction notices. He did not like that, so he sued his parents, hoping to buy some time. He argued that “It’s really unfair to me and really outrageous…” He got so used to living there for the past 8 years (Was he living somewhere else before?), that he thought he would be able to stay longer. “They stopped feeding me, they cut me off the family phone plan” – he complained.

Apparently, there is still hope, because the judge decided to side with the parents, and ordered the 30-year-old-baby to move out of the house.

After loosely following this farce, I wondered to myself: “Since when is it OK to not contribute to society, and leech off your parents (or society in general)?”

It was also discovered that he has a child, and owes child support. However, somehow he has the money to pay for storage of his “busted 1989 Chevy Camaro“, as well as its car insurance.

Since when is it noble to not work for a living, and instead, to have other, productive members of society pay for you?

Naturally, there are people, who, due to various circumstances cannot take care of themselves, and they need our help. I do not mean them. I mean people, who are just lazy and prefer to exists, instead of to live.

I mean people, who are lazy and cannot be bothered to get/ hold a job.

I mean people, who think they are smarter than everyone else by not working and surviving just fine on the backs of others.

What was interesting was that this guy actually got a job offer due to the publicity of his trial. He was offered a TV reality position. Stream his life for 1 thousand pounds a month. Who would even watch this? Is that how low we had fallen? That we would watch someone do nothing all day every day?

To finish, I would like to shift your focus onto family. Our initial family is formed by people, whom we could not really choose. Some of us got lucky with the draw, but not all of us. It is my feeling that the family unit, as well as family values, have been eroding. We expect family to do everything for us. We take their care for granted. Do we ever ask ourselves what WE do for THEM?

In Michael Rotondo’s case, his parents have been there for him for all these years. They supported him as much as they could. Maybe they even supported him too much. Made him too reliant on them. Made him feel like he did not have to do anything to live his life. Have you thought about how they must feel knowing that they brought up a useless human being?

Sometimes we try to coddle those we love. Sometimes they make us feel like we do not care for them if we do not continue to support them. It might be hard to cut someone off, but sometimes it is something that needs to be done ASAP, because the longer you wait, the higher the risk of them flipping out. The more time you give them, the more entitled they get.

It is a fine line between helping someone and enabling them. This guy was enabled, and his parents could not take it any more. I hope he gets to wake up and do something with his life.

To those who need help: Appreciate the help you are given. Do not take it for granted. Do not learn to be dependent on it. Try to get yourself back up as soon as possible.

Have you ever had someone relying on you too much?

If so, what did you do to get them to stand on their own two feet?

Stay golden,

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