If you came here looking for #MondayMotivation, but you do not have enough time to read this whole post, I recommend you scroll to the bottom. The section with the video is the one you are looking for.
My weekend had been below average. All in all, it was disappointing on more than one front. It took me by surprise. Now that I look at it, it was only natural after all the other great weekends I had in the past couple of months.
On Sunday night I find myself wanting the weekend to end. Not because it was so terrible, but because I did not want any more non-fantastic things to happen. I wondered if I have gone insane by wanting Monday to come.
Here we are. Monday. A new week. A fresh start. It can be considered silly that we wait for a specific date to start something (i.e. New Year’s resolutions), but I really do see every Monday as a start to something new. A new potential.
Which day do YOU consider to be a fresh start/ a new beginning?
Somehow, some way, my parents managed to condition me into always trying to do better. Interestingly enough, when I failed/ did not succeed 100%, I did not feel inadequate. I did not feel like less of a person. I just felt that next time I would have to put in even more effort to get closer to my goal. I was (and still am) driven and competitive. When I wonder what exactly my parents did to have me turn out the way I did, I cannot always figure out an exact answer. I like to think that they did some stuff right, but that I also had a good head on my shoulders, and so I helped them. It might be just my inflated ego talking, though. (chuckles)
Enough about myself. What I wanted to convey was that even though my parents always wanted me to do better, I did not crumble in self pity and despair. Recently, I was reminded, on more than one occasion, that not everyone is like that. Failure does not motivate everyone the same way. Negative feedback does not motivate some like it motivates me. Of course, there are different types of negative feedback. While some are wrong and should be disregarded (when not based on truth and reality), others (constructive criticism) might prove helpful to your overall development. In a post I wrote a while back, I talk about how to get over negative comments, which you can read here.
Giving negative feedback without hurting the other person, making them feel less of a person, and destroying the atmosphere is something I struggle with. My goal is not to make them feel bad, but to have them strive for more. You got me, I am an overachiever, and it is hard for me to understand those who are underachievers. Plenty of people say: “If you have nothing nice to say, do not say anything at all.” But why? If it comes from a good place, why should I not say it? If it is going to improve someone’s life and potentially the lives of others, then why is that such a bad thing? I do not yell, or shout, or curse. I say it in a calm, matter of fact tone.
There are so many questions that I have on this topic…
If you are a person that struggles with criticism:
- Could you tell me why? Feel free to be as deep and detailed as you would like. If it is something personal, feel free to drop me a message through the contact page.
- Is there a way to criticize you in a productive way? A way to not make you feel bad, but to make you want to do better?
This was supposed to be #MondayMotivation. And it is. I am just asking for your help this time around, to tell me how I can better motivate the proverbial you? Failure makes some people fall apart, while it makes me even more pumped up.
Just so I do not feel like I wasted your whole morning, I would actually like to motivate you a little. I am a person, who claims they cannot draw. Below, I share a video with you, that proves that in a way, we can all draw. We just put false limitations on ourselves.
“How many other beliefs and limiting thoughts do we all carry around with us every day? Beliefs that we could perhaps potentially challenge? (…) What else could be possible for us all?”
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