I woke up with a vague idea that I already knew what I wanted to write today about. It was a joy when I looked into my drafts and I saw a post entitled: “#ThrowbackThursday”. YES! That almost never happens. Very rarely an idea pops into my head and I am near my computer to be able to write it down. 99% of those “very rare” occasions go anywhere. I either forget about them, or I simply do not “feel” the idea anymore when it is time to write. But this time around, the idea was there; it was written down; and I still like it!
On this magnificent day, I would like to throwback to your first blogging buddy. Take that as it may – your first follower, the person you followed first, the person whom you became close with.
For the purpose of this blog, I scrolled through MILLIONS of my followers. It took a long time. It was hard work… Are you impressed yet? (Yes, I have been told I have a weird sense of humor.)
When it comes to people that decided to follow me in the beginning of my blogging adventure:
- some people deleted their blogs.
- some people have not posted in forever.
- some people I interact with here and there.
- some completely ignore me.
I look through the first few followers and remember one, or two with great fondness. I thought we were going to have MANY great debates for a very long time, and I am sad that they just left one day without saying a word and never came back.
I look at the people who decided to follow me, but whom I have not heard from in over a year. Why would you follow someone if you will not read their stuff? I might not be following them, but it’s not tit for tat. I would like to think they followed me, because they liked SOMETHING about me/ my blog. Is that “something” gone? Not too long ago, when I had some free time, I went to these blogs and commented on their latest content in hopes to revive the relationship. I got a like or a “thank you” and that was that. Still dead.
The people who deleted their blogs surprised me. It makes me wonder what happened in their lives. They were in the midst of their active blogging journey. Did they create a blog somewhere else? Did they have a meltdown and took it down? What happened?
When it comes to people that I followed in the beginning:
- some have not posted in a while. That is sad, because I liked their stuff and it makes me wonder how they are doing and why they stopped blogging.
- some people I have an odd comment conversation here and there. That’s nice, but nothing too committing.
- some people are still active and I keep reading their stuff and leaving feedback. But they never come over to my site. It hurts a little, but I understand that I might like someone/ something and they do not have to like me back.
What I realized while writing this post is that I seem to be going through the same cycles:
- I find a blog I like and they leave.
- I find a blog I like and they do not like me back.
- I find a blog I like, we chat, exchange ideas…. and then they leave.
Does anyone else feel like that?
On one hand, I feel victorious, because it shows my perseverance (I keep on going and they quit). But on the other hand, it can be a little disheartening to feel like you are building a community of your own, and then, one by one, they drop out.
Some bloggers post apologies for being MIA, while others do not. Some people warn us, while others do not. Some people say: “Who cares” when someone says: “I will not be here for a while”, or “I’m back now. Sorry I was gone.” Well, I care. I need closure. I understand life happens and you either move onto bigger and better things, or simply do not have time for this, but at least, take a moment and let us know. That way, I will not be wondering if you are dead, or ever coming back.
First people you made connections with.
Where are they?
Do you miss them?
Will you and I turn into nothingness, or just 2 ships passing in the night soon enough?
And those that are still there, but never engage. Why?
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