As a kid, have you ever wondered why your parents focused on that one bad grade instead of praising you for all the other good ones?
As a grown up, have you had others (employer, or partner) highlight your negative sides, and totally overlook the positive ones?
It has surely happened to me. On more than one occasion. It is my mission to recognize and praise as much good in people as I can, but the bad parts are somehow so much easier to focus on.
None of us are either all good, or all bad. We all have some good sides to us, but we also have some faults. It is called being human.
Depending on your religion, you might believe that once you die, your life will be evaluated, and your actions will be put on a scale. If you did more good than bad, you will be rewarded, while if you did more bad than good, you will be punished.
I have to confess that I found this great quote a while back that I wanted to share with you, but I lost it. When I read something I enjoy, or something that I think I could use for my blog, I print it out and put it next to my computer for when I have time to write. Sometimes, there is something more pressing that I want to blog about, and so those printouts just remain untouched. Every now and again, I look through the pile to see if it is something I feel like writing at that given moment. After a while, when I gather more than enough materials, but never get to use it, I decide to purge. Most of the time it is a good idea. However, it seems like I trashed something yesterday that I could have used today. The piece of paper included an article (which I can look up), my notes (thoughts), and a quote.
The quote was by someone with last name “Brown”. I think it was a female. And the meaning of it was along the lines of: “It does not matter who they are if what they say makes sense”. Of course it was worded better. What it meant was that if a certain quote speaks to you, then should it not be enough? Do you need to know (and agree with) everything about that person?
Motivational quotes are trendy. That is all this world seems to be about. Because we have such limited time, and our attention span is so short, it seems that motivational quotes are the only things that can catch our attention and push us to new heights. I am not the biggest fan of those, but if they work for you, who am I to stop you from pinning a million of them a day?
The reason for the quote rant is a piece of news that I read recently. Apparently, a university issues an apology for using a Nazi general’s motivational quote. No, the quote did not say: “Burn the Jews”. It said: “One cannot permit unique opportunities to slip by for the sake of trifles.” In the issued apology, the university said that they had not intended to offend anyone, and that whoever chose that quote was unaware who the author was.
First of all, the quote is mediocre in my opinion. If that is what they tried to apologize for, then I will accept their attempt. But I am genuinely curious as to who got offended and by what exactly. There is nothing wrong with the quote, yet it had to be withdrawn and defamed forever.
The second part of the apology focused on the fact that people do not research authors of various quotes. That is something that I actually understand. I often times wonder what are the back stories of the people whom we quote. And I research them. Even if a tiny bit. But I am aware that not everyone does that.
In other news, people are attempting to remove Donald Trump’s star from the Hollywood Walk of Fame in light of his presidential actions. I do not want to discuss politics and argue for, or against his character. What I want to talk about is the fact that he achieved recognition (the star), and now someone wants to take it back.
Both of the above mentioned pieces of news focus on taking something back because of someone’s negative perception of the subject. How fair is that?
THIS is why I wanted to share the quote with you. To illustrate that positive things are not nullified by negative actions. We have all done some good and some bad things, but do we want to only be remembered by the bad? Look at what is going on around the country of the US. People want to change street names, take down statues, etc. All because of something that person did that they do not agree with. But why do we forget that they must have done something good to deserve the recognition in the first place? Why does our world need to be so black and white when we humans are all shades of grey?
Do you recognize the good in people?
Do you forget all the good once they do something bad?
What warrant taking back of recognition?
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