The following is just meant to illustrate facts, which inspired my today’s post. Nothing else.
1. Co-worker A complained about me to co-worker B.
2. Co-worker B seems to be out to get me.
3. Co-worker A and I are not fans of co-worker B.
4. Co-worker A has plenty of enemies (including co-worker B), but I have been nothing but friendly, trying to make their lives easier.
Typical office drama, which I usually do not care about, but this time around I felt betrayed. How wise is it to back-stab your only ally?
To me, it was the final straw. Previously, I was getting slightly annoyed with co-worker A, and was beginning to see why others did not like them, but I decided to remain supportive. Why? I do not like it when people are ganged up on. I wanted to show them some presumably needed support. And that was how they repaid me.
Right there and then I was done. They were dead to me. They were truly on their own. It was not very wise of them to do what they did. They were going to suffer the consequences.
That led me to think about second chances.
What makes you decide to give people a second chance?
How many second chances do you give?
When I think of second chances, I mainly think about all the romantic relationship stories I have heard, read about, and watched over the years. But second chances can also be given to lost family members. To friends. To co-workers.
It is often easy to judge. “He is just going to do that again.” “If I were him, I would not take her back.” “He is an addict; there is no hope for him.” “She was not meant to be a mother.” etc.
I will be the first to admit that sometimes I feel like it is survival of the fittest. I have to cut people off before they damage me more. For the most part, my instincts were right. Second chances were given to deserving people, and withheld from those who were not worthy.
But as I grow as a human, and as a Catholic, I like to try and open my heart a bit more sometimes. Who knows what my second chance will bring?
Ultimately, I have given co-worker A a second chance. I am still cautious. But I realized that I can protect myself, but at the same time, be a friend to a person in need. Even if they might not appreciate it.
However, I would like you to know that if you have someone in your life who has been given too many second chances, and you just do not have any more in you, it is up to YOU to let them go. Do not blame YOUR lack of happiness on them. It is YOUR choice to walk away. It is up to YOU to free yourself and give YOURSELF a second chance.
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