HW: #MondayMotivation; No pain, no gain -The power of motivation.

While I have nothing against motivational quotes, I find that they usually motivate me only for a brief moment. It seems like so many people sign up for daily motivational quotes to be sent to their inbox, or they fill their Pinterest boards with such. It reminds me of what I used to do (and still do, sometimes), namely – writing down quotes I like. The problem with that is that I write them down on a sticky and then toss them into one of my non-crucial, but important piles of paper. It does not take a genius to figure out that the pile grows larger every week, and usually remains untouched for a prolonged period of time. When I do get to organizing it, I find a number of scribbles that I thought were going to make a difference, but at that moment, I realize that they did not. Nine times out of ten, I end up throwing out the piece of paper with the golden quote. Only to be replaced by another shortly after.

Does that ever happen to you? Do you write things down only to never look at them again and then, when enough time has passed, you toss it out?

As I sat down to write this post, I entered “What motivates you?” in the Google search bar. What I expected was a bunch of quotes and spiritual stuff. Instead, I got more tangible answers. I found out that the motivation question often comes up during work interviews and the most sought out answers include: learning new skills, meeting deadlines and overcoming challenges. While those things definitely motivate me, I know that not all of you are driven by those things.

Upon further research, I found out that the two biggest motivators are: pain and gain. That totally makes sense to me. When I talk with people about work and they give me an esoteric answer, it makes me wonder. I work because I need a paycheck. Because I do not want to be homeless (pain avoidance), and because I like the things money buys (gain).

Does pain motivate you? 

What is a greater motivator to you – pain or gain?

This also nicely explains why we cannot save some people no matter how much we try. Have you ever encountered a person, who had an unusually rough time living? Did you want to help them? Did you tell them what to do/ what not to do, but they would not listen? There is a chance that they did not follow your advice because the pain you thought they were in was not really painful enough for them. They did not hit rock bottom, yet. Or maybe, they just saw no gain in sight. There was nothing for them to strive towards.

This is also the reason why you might have already forgotten your New Year’s resolutions. We often come up with arbitrary changes, but what we do not always realize it at that time is that we lack motivation. Have you ever heard a weight loss success story? Often times they decide to lose weight and do so successfully after a health scare, or an instance of humiliation.

It appears to me that today’s society is pain-aversive.

As humans, we want things to go smoothly for us.

We want good things to happen to us.

We do not want to suffer.

However, if that was the case, we would have grown complacent. We would have no motivation to strive for more.

There is time and place for everything. Even though it is rude and even socially unacceptable to just blurt out whatever you are thinking in certain situations, we should not censor ourselves 100%. Sometimes we need to cause others pain to have them realize that they can do better.

So much better.

I wonder if Google just told me what I wanted to hear…

What do you think your purpose in life is?

Are you working towards it?

What motivates you?

How do you feel about motivational quotes?

Do you seek out motivational quotes to push yourself?

Why do you think these quotes are so powerful?

Stay golden,



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    1. You make an interesting point. I think there is a difference between proverbs and random quotes. There seems to be a bit more substance in the old school ones. Not sure why I think so. I have not performed any statistical analysis.

      While I find some of them very wise, or sometimes I even identify with them, 9 times out of 10 I will forget about them within the hour. Only very rarely will I actually carry it with me for longer. And that happens when I actually feel like using it to better my life.

      Do they motivate you long-term?

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      1. I’m referring to the book of Proverbs. Some do motivate me long-term. I suppose it depends on how they strike me when I’m reading them. But it’s also good to be impacted time and again when I read the ones I had forgotten.

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        1. I thought you did, but I didn’t want to assume.
          In that particular case, I assume you have it in a physical form (a book)? It’s much easier (at least for me) to go back to words written there.

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  1. What do you think your purpose in life is?
    We all have one, but not always see it. I haven’t discovered mine yet, but I believe that we’re all connected. When you cross someone’s path during your journey, it is because you’re meant to make an impact on that person, be it big or small. Even if it is just a hello.

    Are you working towards it?
    Probably yes. I believe in fate. Hence I believe that I’m going toward it.
    What motivates you?
    Good question! I don’t know. Sometimes quotes, sometimes the weather, sometimes my mood.
    How do you feel about motivational quotes?
    They’re useful. But not necessarily important.
    Do you seek out motivational quotes to push yourself?
    Nope. But I read them if I cross them.
    Why do you think these quotes are so powerful?
    They makes us think and dream of accomplishing what we want

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    1. Novus, thank you for your involved comments. I really appreciate them!

      You are so right about us crossing paths for a reason. I remember reading an amazing post somewhere here on WP in which the person describes an interaction with another person. They thought it was meaningless, but in truth, it was very meaningful for the other person. I don’t remember any details, but it was a profound post.

      I enjoyed reading your answers. You and I seem to have some overlapping beliefs.


  2. I guess their power lies in their truth, or perceived truth. Personally, I enjoy reading them, may feel a surge of recognition, perhaps admiration for their insight and brevity, even temporary empowerment, but then tend quickly to forget them.

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    1. Good point. It’s like with song lyrics. Somehow we think some of the songs are precisely about us. We wonder how the author knows us so well. We twist the meaning to our liking. To fit the situation.

      It’s interesting to hear that it’s a fleeting thing for you, too.


  3. Part of my daily prayer giving my heart (again) to Jesus: “Thank You for emotions that motivate me to do what’s right, and thank You for the power to choose to do right, whether i feel like it or not.” Choices should be based on what we KNOW, not what we feel. Doing the right thing can get painful, but that doesn’t mean it’s time to stop.

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      1. That’s something I’m seeing a lot, and I seem to keep coming back to that subject. Making my mind(what I know) trump my feelings has liberated me in more ways than I have yet written about. It took me too many decades to learn that, but I’m hoping my readers can learn it faster!

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        1. I support your testimony. I’ve been called heartless before just because of that. But it’s not that the emotions are switched off. It’s just that they don’t solely govern everything.

          I try to spread awareness, too, but the work seems more and more challenging. Keep at it!

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            1. That was funny.
              My heart has developed a decent relationship with my brain. It might blurt out a random thought, but right after it stops and lets the brain speak up. They come to a consensus most of the time.

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  4. Motivated by hunger, a bathroom break, thirst, sleepiness, anger, sorrow, joy… Those are natural motivations. Un-natural ones are bills, destructive weather, becoming a victim… Quotes don’t do it for me.

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    1. You have a new avatar. Interesting. It confused me for a second, but there couldn’t be another Hinoeuma and another Cosmic Observation.

      I hear ya. Are emotions natural, though? Aren’t they caused by outside factors, rendering them a bit “unnatural”?


      1. I updated both of my avatars…my site icon and my profile/gravatar icon. Hinoeuma means “Firehorse”.

        They are natural. Are they a product of being incarnate, therefore, related to being in a body template or, are souls emotional as a product of existence? Not totally sure. I ‘think’ (guess) the compacted energies inherent in inhabiting a body concentrate already existing emotions. If emotions, themselves, were unnatural, we wouldn’t have them. If they were solely caused by external factors (stimuli), computers and/or robots would have them.

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  5. Haha – calling me out about my Motivational Monday quotation posts! I’ve actually been posting a quote a day for several years now. And while some quotes I choose fall by the wayside, others stick with me for a good while. I actually created an image of a quotation that particularly spoke to me to use as my lock screen. Most quotes I choose are for a particular phase I’m going through and I draw wisdom from them – or force myself to lighten up with funny quotes when life gets too heavy. To me, they do their job…even if it’s only for a few minutes per day.

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    1. I wasn’t calling anyone out. Just sharing my thoughts. I know that these quotes are rather helpful for many people.

      I think putting them where you will see them (which makes you remember it) is a great idea.

      Maybe I’m nit-picking. If it works for even a moment, without harming you, that’s good. That’s what I appreciate them for. Fleeting moments of motivation.

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  6. “Sometimes we need to cause others pain to have them realize that they can do better” – I’ve never thought of it this way, but it seems so true. The only thing is that this kind of motivation breaks down some relationships.

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    1. That’s true.
      It depends who that person is, what’s their character and how you deliver that message. I find it that there are very few people like me (i.e. give it to me straight), and instead, it can actually have a negative effect on them. It’s tricky, but I dislike it when people complain about others. Have you told them how you feel? No? Then what makes you think they are even aware of their wrongdoing?


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