As faith would have it, after I mentioned that motivational quotes and I do not have such a deep relationship, I heard something that resonated with me, and even stuck with me since.
“There is a reason why the rear-view mirror is so small and the windshield is so big.”
Have you heard this one before?
I was driving back from work when the radio host uttered those words. Even though I was peeking into the rear-view mirror to check how things are behind me, most of the time I was looking forward.
Looking at the traffic lights to make sure I do not run a red.
To make sure that I go when the signs tell me so.
I looked forward to get to my destination.
But I was not thinking about my home just yet. First, I needed to get there. And in order to do so, I had to pay attention to what was going on on the road right in front of me.
On my way to and from work, I listen to the radio. Yes, there are some ads, but not too many, so I enjoy it. Plus, I really like the short traffic updates it gives me. (No, I do not use Google Maps/ GPS to navigate me and provide me with detours.) On more than one occasion, the traffic update came on and I had heard that there was an accident at the intersection I just passed a couple of minutes ago. Hearing this makes me super grateful that I am still alright. For a second, I think that could have been me in that accident. I feel bad for the people, and hope they are alright. But the next moment, I am back to HERE and NOW.
A couple of weeks ago, I have had a great day, and her more plans for the evening that I looked forward to. I was looking forward to getting home, while thinking of how good the day had been. And you know what? I got into an accident. Why? Because I was not in the now.
Enough of the car talk.
We do need to look back, because the past is full of memories and lessons. Both of those help propel us further and avoid the potholes.
The past is the past. You have lived it. Kudos to you. But you cannot change it.
You cannot go back in time.
You cannot bring the past to the present.
The future is wide open, just like a windshield. Marvel at its brightness, but do not overlook the pebble in front of you.
Look forward to see where you want to be.
Look behind you to know where you came from.
But do it with your feet grounded in the present.
Do you hang onto the past?
Are you often stuck in dreamland about the future?
Are your feet fixed to the ground?
Stay golden,
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I don’t hang on to the past. My mother is horrible for it. She talks like her life is over and she’s only 58. I’ve spoken to her many times and tried to open her eyes and heart to the fact that she has a long life to live and many people who love her and wants her to be as full of life as she once was. Great post.
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Truly saddening. I have a similar situation of my own. Unfortunately, no matter what we tell them will be good enough to convince them to do something different.
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I agree. The past is for memories and lessons – not to be forgotten, but learned from. I generally live in the now with hope for the future.
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I think that’s a fantastic approach. Well said.
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Ouch! I hope you weren’t hurt!
Good observation about missing accidents. (You might enjoy my post “Angels in Traffic” – August 3, 2018)
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No one got hurt. Thank you for asking.
I’m heading over there right now.
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You did it again, I needed to read this today. Thank you. Just going to go count my blessings now and start my day, fully present and thankful.
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That is one of the (if not THE) highest compliments one can hope for.
Thank you.
I hope your weeks is going well.
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It’s getting better, thank you.
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I prefer to look at the future rather than the past.
The past isn’t something that I want to live again, there are occasions where I wonder at some events but not more than that
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I go to the future every now and again. Not to avoid the present, but to see how the past shaped the now. I appreciate the past. I have some fond memories. In the end, I think I remember the good, and forget most of the bad. Or maybe it was mostly good to begin with. It inspires me, because that means that what is happening now isn’t so bad. That it will look better from a perspective of the next few years.
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😊😊 Yes, the past shapes the present. And so does the present. We always wish for the best.
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Indeed.
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I’ve spent a good deal of time revisiting my past. I’ve dug into it to make peace with it. You can’t run from it or ignore it. It will be in your face, eventually. I’m not dwelling, I’m examining and letting go…piece by piece. If you don’t know where you came from, you can’t possibly know where you are going.
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That’s true.
And I’m glad you’re facing your demons. I agree you cannot outrun them, or hide from them in the long run. As long as you use it for “now”, then I think it’s alright.
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❤
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Have a nice weekend!
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Back @ ya’! 😁🤗
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I’m thankful for my past and the lessons it taught me. I love to dwell on the past in a way I think is healthy. I like to reflect on the mistakes I’ve made and try to think of a better approach I should have taken. I believe this would help me later in future should I ever find myself in such situation again.
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I get that. I analyze the past, too. But don’t get stuck in the past. And remember that no circumstance is exactly the same. So even though you learn from the past, in the future, the decision you made after analyzing your past might not be current anymore.
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Hmm, thanks for giving me something deep to think about! I never thought about it this way.
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At your service.
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