Have you ever heard someone ask: “Why me?“?
Better yet – Have YOU ever asked: “Why me?“?
I would venture a guess and say that we ALL could answer with a “Yes” to both of these questions. (Please let me know you answered “No”. It would be of utmost interest to me to get to know your story.)
Life is tough and sometimes the burdens we carry are just too heavy. We drop everything to the ground and fall onto a couch, breathing heavily.
We probably all heard the “You only get what you can handle” cliche. I know that this acts like the piece of red fabric on a bull. It might make you angry because you do not think certain people deserve such hardship. Or maybe you have seen people broken by specific events. You might roll your eyes and wonder how do people handle hurricanes and losing EVERYTHING.
Throughout my life, I always believed that saying to be true. Maybe I went through less serious stuff than other people or maybe I went through more. The definition of “serious” is very subjective here. However, whenever something occurred to me that I thought was too heavy for me at that time, I ended up overcoming it and emerging a stronger person.
Often times it is hard to stick your head above water and see the bigger picture when you are drowning. Of course, you should deal with the emergency at hand instead of looking at the sandy beaches in the distance. But once you are on dry land and all the dust settles, you will be able to realize that you WERE able to survive. The next time a big wave comes over you, you will be able to hold your breath a bit longer than the last time, giving you even better chances of survival.
It is not hard to defend “You only get what you can handle”. If you are still alive, it means that all of the trails you went through WERE beatable. How can you dispute that statement? Sure, sometimes it takes people a long time to find equal footing, but once they do… it is beautiful. Look at all the stories we read about and watch on TV about people surviving terrible odds – cancer, being kidnapped, tsunamis. How do these people seem to you? To me, they seem strong. You might THINK you cannot do something, but that is often fear and doubt, which overshadow your true potential.
Recently, I had an epiphany on the topic of hardship. You are given what is good for you. I know, I know. How can floods and famine be good for you? I do not know, because I am not YOU and such disasters have not happened to me (at least on a bigger scale they have not). What I do know is what applies to me. Think about this and your life and see if it translates.
Two thoughts passed each other in a hallway in my head. One was regarding my work life, the other – my personal life. Normally, those two would have kept on walking in opposite directions, but this time they decided to get some coffee and chat.
There are many things that one can complain about when it comes to work. I know I do. However, my deepest pain, a recurring complaint is my skills not being utilized. Have you ever had to pretend to be busy for hours on end? I have. To me, that is more taxing than actually working hard all day. I despise not being able to solve problems just because they are not mine to solve, while others fumble with them in the dark. I want to say: “I can do more. I WANT TO do more”.
In my personal life, I seem to like it calm. Who does not like to relax? But you know that feeling when you just do not know what to do with yourself because there is no excitement in your life? For me, there is a fine line between relaxing and being bored. And the latter does not mean that there is nothing to do because there always is, but sometimes you feel bored even when you do things.
The conclusion that my brain came to is that the challenges that I encounter in my life are there because that is what I need. Did I not ask to be able to do more? Did I not WANT to? I sure have.
I wanted to prove my strength.
I wanted to prove my worth.
I wanted to show my diversified skills.
I wanted a challenge so I would not be bored.
Do I go through this so others do not have to? Maybe. Maybe not. But today, more than before, I believe that He has a plan. He knows how to hone in on my skills and make me grow towards the sky and reach my full potential. He is a Boss that listens and waters the talent. God gives me lemons in life so I don’t get bored. So I get challenged. He knows what I need.
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