Why Social Media is Bad for You and Even Worse for Celebrities.

Most bloggers I follow published some sort of “End of 2020” and “Beginning of 2021” posts. If you have been here for a while, you know I do not do these. Yes, it is in my practice to post “The End of XYZA” (and you can check out the latest, 4th edition HERE), but it is vastly different from the regular “look back.” Even before the pandemic that emerged last year, I shared with you that New Year’s Resolutions (NYR) just are not my thing. (Like clockwork, the gym is bursting at its seams, making me want to stop working out there until about February when most people will drop their NYR.) I thought of coming up with a new and improved schedule for this blog and announcing it to all of you, but the truth is that the year of 2021 does not seem certain to me. And I do not mean to be fatalistic; it is just the way my life is – quite a few unknowns, certain things might change, and who knows what chain reactions those will cause. Therefore, I dive into a regular NROP, without any introductory posts. However, I do want to wish you a Happy New Year. Cheers!

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Last weekend was nice, because it lasted longer than two days. In fact, I had Friday AND Thursday off, which allowed me to properly relax, as well as take care of a few chores. The perfect balance. But now, we are done with the Holiday season (especially because the Christmas season is officially over as of January 10th), and we embark on a journey of no days off until Memorial Day (end of May). Normally, by mid February, I start going stir crazy and have to plan some sort of a get-away. In today’s day and age, I am not sure what will happen…

I was born an explorer. Well, I actually do not know. Is curiosity and love for travel something that comes from nature or nurture? From observation, I know that kids like to visit every corner of the house, climb up on top of cabinets, taste the grossest of things, etc. This leads me to believe that we are born this way. However, I am also not blind to the influence nurture has on us. My parents definitely liked travelling and seeing new things, and they passed it onto me. In some of my past blogs, I had said how I cannot imagine dying in the same town in which you lived your whole life. Although it sounds rather sad to me, I am aware of different circumstances that people face that either prevent them from travelling or make other parts of the world seem unattractive.

“What would you like to do?” my partner asked me over the weekend.

The only thing that came to mind was: “To go places.” But that is easier said than done. There were a few places in town we used to frequent that closed permanently as a result of the coronavirus. It really bummed us out. Yes, we like to take walks, but we will soon run out of parks nearby and I am not the biggest fan of strolling on the side of a highway. Going out of town is not something I really entertain because it is disappointing to go somewhere only to find out that many places are currently closed. We stayed the night at a hotel a couple of weeks ago, where we discovered a tiny spec of blood on the bed-sheets. At the front desk, I was told that due to the pandemic, housekeeping was not available. I did not need them to change the sheets. We did it ourselves, but how is not having housekeeping on standby a good thing? I imagine many weird things happen that require bigger cleanups.

Where does social media come into play? These platforms reveal our “transgressions.”

More: The beautiful, the stupid, and the dangerous.

This time around, some celebrities are in hot water over touring the world despite the pandemic. It was reported that Amy Schumer visited Saint Barthélemy, but she left out the date and location of a photo she posted, giving her plausible deniability. It is worth noting that back in May of last year, she said that traveling was dangerous and it was best to stay put. Not going anywhere for two months seems doable. Not going anywhere for a year or more? That is harder to accomplish. I get that.

Chrissy Teigen posted A LOT of photos from her family’s vacation to St. Barth’s, causing an outrage. What made people mad was the fact that she talked about planes in the photo description. People called her “tone deaf.” (“Tone deaf” is a topic for another time.) It looks like we cannot talk about our hopes, dreams, or passions anymore. The virus and the toilet paper are the only approved topics.

Of course, the Kardashians went places, too. For Christmas, they were at Lake Tahoe, while they spent their NYE in Aspen.

Others, like Dua Lipa, Bella Hadid, Dakota Johnson, and Chris Martin vacationed out of town, but did not post ANYTHING on their social media. That is why we have the paparazzi – to keep an eye on them when we cannot.

What does that all mean?

  1. People do things that they are told they cannot do.
  2. People brag about the things they do, even if they should not.
  3. We are NOT all equal and never will be if we give others so much power.

To me, it is funny to see all the backlash; people complaining about the fact that celebrities are not acting the same way as we – average citizens. “Why do you think that is?” I want to ask them? “It is because of you that they have all that power and status. You have emboldened them to do whatever THEY want. Are you really surprised that they take private jets to travel during the pandemic after they campaign for cleaner air and “stay-at-home” orders? People are all for something until it affects them. Then, they reevaluate and often end up bending the rules that they themselves helped establish.

In response to the negative feedback, Chrissy Teigen posted that she is done explaining anything to those who visit her social media account. “Excited about the new year’s resolution I started early: not explaining SHIT to you people,” she wrote. I am happy that she is not letting others get to her, but I do not think this is a respectful reply.

This reminded me of all the people who earn money and fame through social media and its viewers, but then go on to complain how terrible those same people are. Do you know who else got tired of negative opinions on social media? Meghan Markle said: “For my own self-preservation, I have not been on social media for a very long time. (…) I’ve made a personal choice to not have any account, so I don’t know what’s out there, and many ways that’s helpful for me.” Supposedly, she was the most trolled person in 2019, (I am not sure how this was measured, so take it with a grain of salt.) which she describes as “almost unsurvivable.” Really? I can think of many things that are more “unsurvivable” than being married to a prince.

Yes, I itch to explore. The farther away, the better. However, during these hectic times, I am learning to appreciate what is right in front of my nose. Or, if not appreciate, then… at least give it a shot. We drive around, see something that interests us, and then we stop by to check it out. There are so many nooks and crannies to which we normally pay no attention, but now, with nothing better to do, we are discovering diamonds in the rough. I hope you are able to do the same where you live.

Social media is good.

Social media is bad.

Try to pick one and stick to it for longer than a minute.

If you want my recommendation – keep it at arm’s length. It can be a great platform to connect with others around the world (like WordPress and this fantastic blog), but it can also be a terrible trap. It can serve as evidence in your trial and it can destroy your mental health. Be warned.

  • Do you think we are born with being an explorer or are we taught to be curious?
  • Have you discovered any cool places near you that were not aware of previously?
  • Do you post your transgressions on social media?
  • What is your relationship with social media and your audience?

Stay golden,

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  1. You remind me of a close friend who was also born with itchy feet. She likes to go. I like to go as long as I have a base to come back to. I really like my home base.

    It’s funny, I was thinking something similar to this as I was reading the electronic paper. How me make this person or that into the thing they are and then get pissed when they act like the thing we made. We embrace the inequality and then get testy about it. And I, too, can think of worse things than being married to a prince.

    The local exploring is fun but like you, my heat hurts to see the people’s businesses that didn’t make it. Crushed dreams.

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    1. It’s true. I like being able to exhale with relief once I get back to my “home base.” Yes, I will miss what I left behind, but I will do so in the comfort of my own home.

      “And I, too, can think of worse things than being married to a prince.” Made me chuckle. I’m glad I’m not the only one.

      Exactly. There were some new establishment that closed up but there were also places that were up and running for decades and now they are no more. Tragic.

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  2. It can and will be used against you in a court of law and of course in the court of public opinion from which there’s no appeal

    It’s like a knife in the hands of a chef who will fillet a beautiful steak or whatever or in the hands of cut butcher with no distinction as to what one butchers..
    ~B

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  3. I’m taking your advice and keeping social media at arms length, it can be a real waste of time. As for travel, the lack of it is the one thing that really gets to me with the lockdowns. I can live with the restrictions, but not being able to travel anywhere and experience new places is horrible. Luckily I don’t tend to travel much anyway in the winter but if the lockdown continues into Spring or summer which it probably will do then I’ll be going stir crazy…

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    1. I hear ya. Where I currently live, winters are very mild. There is no: “Fine, I’ll stay home because it’s freezing and snowing.”

      For your sake (and myself and others), I pray that this gets better soon, but the reasonable me knows better. We were supposed to be OK to travel in the fall of 2020…

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  4. There was a time when I could swear that I had a friend in most of my social media friends, but not anymore. So I don’t share as much about my life as I used to many years ago. But I still share occasionally. Like that tweet you replied to—the one where I talked about forgetting how to grieve.

    I don’t think it’s wise to share everything about yourself on social media. I’ve found that people mostly share things on social media one of these two times: when they’re very excited about something or when they’re very sad (or mad) about something. Our emotions are influential like that; still, I think it’s best to scrutinize our tweets and posts before sharing online. I’ve never posted anything online without first asking myself if it can be used against me somehow. Most times, the answer will be no. Other times, the answer will be yes, and I’d still post it because I know I can handle the heat.

    But that doesn’t mean I’d go against public health guidelines to satisfy my selfish needs, and then go as far as posting pictures online. That’s just inconsiderate.

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    1. I wonder about the things I post, too. I can totally see it all being turned against me. Oh well.

      When it comes to celebrities (and some other people, too), I feel like they think they “have to” document every minute of their lives for their followers. Do people really need to know what a celebrity wore, ate, or did every single day?

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      1. I want to say “no,” then again I know some fan(atic)s who are so obsessed over their favourite celebrities that if they could imitate their breathing patterns, they would. If I ever become a celebrity someday, I would be more reserved than ever. Nearly as reserved as Daniel Radcliffe, or maybe even more. Discretion is underrated these days.

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  5. My feet are definitely not itchy as yours 😉
    If the accommodation and travel is uncomfortable, I prefer to stay home. A good bed and clean bathroom is very important to me.
    Also, as you know, I am only interested in a few countries anyway.

    I can still not come to terms that millennials are actually obsessed about social media and envy can arise from it.
    Worse even, people post on social media to make others jealous.
    I know I am still “young” or whatever, but I honestly don’t have the energy level to be jealous of someone else’s life style.

    Why do you think celebs post their wonderful houses and travel locations?
    Is it to make others jealous?
    Is to brag? And if so, is that to brag towards other celebs or to us, regular people?
    Is it to share their happiness without cruel intentions?
    Or is it because they are sponsored for each post?

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    1. That’s the thing – I don’t have the time or the energy to obsess about someone’s social media. It seems like too many people have nothing better to do…

      I think it’s a mix of all that you listed. Also, I think it’s a form of an addiction. They want all the likes, the comments, the retweets. They want to feel important.

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  6. Other than my blog I don’t use social media. Family and friends know how to get ahold of me and many do follow my blog. I’m also content to explore our little corner of the earth. I’ve done enough traveling and usually find it more stressful than relaxing.

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  7. A well crafted piece. I liked the idea that celebrities are celebrities because we give them so much of our power (in the form of adulation) which in turn drives the media coverage and when they sway from our expectations, we prosecute and convict them them in the court of public opinion. Someone described living in the pandemic this way: We may all be in the same storm but we are all in different boats and realities. As for social media, it only has the influence and power over our lives that we let it have.

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  8. I’m still stuck at “the year of 2021 does not seem certain to me.” Are we talking about impending death or something? If so, I hope you’re okay and things get better real fast.

    Otherwise… I find that this highlights the differences in riches in society and how social media highlights the differences between us and “them”…

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    1. I think predicting the end of the world “soon” is a family tradition. Plus, I seem to be a magnet for all sorts of weird things, so I’m just trying to prepare for whatever I can. I also consider changing jobs, etc.

      And yea, I was in a car accident the other day, so that strengthens my uncertainty…

      RE: the chasm between us and them – absolutely.

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