Today, I wonder about who we are.
It is not a deep philosophical question that I pose, but more a psychological one.
You have all probably heard: “This is not you”/ “This is unlike you”/ “You are better than that”/ etc. I know, I definitely have.
Recently, I was told that I “get quiet, when x”. The thing is that the person that said that has only known me for a short period of time, therefore, does not know me too well. Especially, because I have been trying to “impress” them (or at least, not have them have a bad opinion about me right off the bat). I wanted to tell them that: “No, I do not get quiet when x. Quiet is my preferable state. Unless y and z.” But I did not.
Then, I wrote a #TuesdayThoughts post, and it felt “foreign”. Even to me. Why? Because I do not really talk about my feelings all that much here, on WP. It is partly because I do not want to, and partly because I do not think my Followers expect that from me.
I read a few new blog posts this morning, as well as some comments and they made me laugh real hard. (Thank you for that!) It reminded me of one of my co-workers who is off today. They keep telling me how I am always happy and smiling. Even though that is not always the case, I cannot deny their observation. The fact is that the way I am depends on whom I am around. If you are someone I enjoy working with, then would I be unhappy?
Somehow, all of the above led me to consider how sometimes we are just perceived in a single dimension. For one reason, or another, we are used to someone being a certain way, and when they act “out of character”, we look at them funnily. Why is that? Yes, it might be an indicator that something is not alright with them, but it might also mean that you are finally seeing their true colors.
It is often heard that people want to get to know one another. But, sometimes, it seems like they want to know the “good” parts of them. The parts that fit THEM.
We walk around expecting others to be the way we want them to be. Have you ever thought that that is exactly who someone is, or that something is not unlikely for someone to do?
I feel like we want to be free to be whomever we want, but we do not extend such freedom to others. I do not think it is a conscious choice. I think it is because we are creatures of habit, and once something falls out of place, it jerks us into a micro panic attack. As if we do not know how to proceed with the new information.
It is alright to feel up, or down. Happy, or sad. We are not one-dimensional. We do not display the same personality traits 24/7/365. Accept others as a whole person. Not just their happy side.
How many different masks do you wear?
Are certain people expecting you to always feel/ act the same way?
Have you ever said: “That is unlike you”, and if so, then why?
How are you feeling today?
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