You have been on a roll as of late. Everything you touch turns into gold, which motivates you to try and tackle one more thing. You go into it believing that you will come out victorious but, unfortunately, you trip and fall. Once you dust your knees and get up to your feet, you start wondering about what happened. You were motivated, and you had a positive mindset, and yet you were not able to achieve what you set out to do. Life…
What you are probably expecting right now is for me to say: “Try and try again.” Is that correct? Sure, I definitely encourage you not to give up, but this is not what this post is about. Today, I would like to look at what happens next; about how one failure can either stop you in your tracks and mess up your day or it can just be a pebble in your shoe that you shake out and continue walking.
It seems to me like self-discipline is a significant component of being able to take failure on the chin and move on. If you are lacking in that department, you will use any excuse to hide your head in the sand for the rest of the day/ week/ month/ year/ life.
“Well, I tried” – you say.
Yes, you did. You deserve a round of applause. Sometimes failure is so overwhelming that we do need some time to ourselves to recover. However, I urge you to prioritize. There is time and place for everything. Say you messed up at work, and you got in trouble with your boss. It is not ideal, but it happens and anyone should be able to deal with it. Your first reaction might be to take the rest of the day off or to at least delay some of the other tasks you were asked to complete. Your ego got bruised and so you are trying to protect it now by not giving anyone any ammo. But guess what? By not doing your job you are making your situation worse. It might be a better idea to shake off your previous failure, work on other things as well as you can and then focus on yourself in the evening at home. Hopefully, by that time, you will feel better.
A couple of weeks ago, I woke up incapacitated. Me being me (i.e. stubborn), I opened up my computer in hopes that I might write something. Within a split-second, I knew there was no way I could write my NROP post. I felt defeated, but I closed my computer and went back to bed. For a moment, I thought about skipping the post altogether, like I would have done a year or so ago, but this time around I could not. That post was published later in the day. Would anything happen if it was not? No, nothing would.
But that is just how I am – I try not to let one thing stop me.
What do you do when you are running late? Do you try and minimize the delay, or do you throw your hands up and say: “Well, I am going to be late anyway. Who cares if it is 10 minutes of 20?” I definitely try to stick to the lesser of two evils. It is my goal to amend my mistakes. It is not only because I do not like others thinking negatively of me, but because I strive to better myself every chance I get. Throwing in the towel is just not for me.
Do you know people who will refuse to do anything for the rest of the day just because one thing went wrong? Are you yourself such a person? If you are, do not worry or be embarrassed. Acknowledging this fact will help you fight this in the future. Just because one thing did not go according to plan does not mean that other things will not.
If you do not try you will not fail. However, if you do not try, you definitely will not succeed, either. Admittedly, failure hurts but is it not worth taking a risk in hopes of tasting the sweetness of victory? You cannot say you do not like green beans just because you do not like broccoli. It just would not make sense. Would it? The same applies to trying other things. Green beans =/= broccoli.
Do not let a single pebble ruing your whole day.
Next time you fail, turn around, and go back home, think about this post. Think about what Goldie said – “Losing a battle does not mean we have to lose the whole war.” Once you do that, walk right back out and face whatever comes next.
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